It’s been a while since my last post. I thought I’d share some random thoughts about relationship dynamics.
Relationship dynamics are the patterns of behavior between two people that impact how they interact, communicate, and relate (paired.com https://www.paired.com/articles/relationship-dynamics). I hope my readers glean something from my post.
-The feminizing of men in modern society affects women adversely in dating and relationships because it encourages women to be compensate by becoming more masculine out of necessity.
-Women are most fulfilled as teachers and nurturers, not the leaders and workhorses in their relationships and nuclear families.
-Dating and marriage prospects for women are more difficult in modern society
-Men should strive to be admired and respected in the eyes of women, not liked or loved.
-Aspiring to be a “pimp” or “player” is shortsighted and immature
-Women do not supplicate to men, they supplicate to a man’s accomplishments
-Women do not have ethnic allegiance. They may subscribe to cultural allegiance due to cultural conditioning, but women do not choose men based solely upon shared ethnicity.
-Women are most attracted to men who can transform their life, be that for good or ill.
-Men, your personality doesn’t matter all that much. It is not the prime motivator for women to become attracted to men. It simply piques their interest initially and keeps them engaged in relationships. Personality doesn’t pay the bills or raise children.
-Women are the gatekeepers to sex, men are the gatekeepers to relationships and marriage.
-Men, you have to be a producer to attract women who are wife material.
-Women, men who are husband material couldn’t care less about how much money you make. Men who are husband material value loyalty, mutual respect, and peace.
-Women tend to value the production, admiration, and social status of a man
-A woman brags more about what their man buys for her vs what she buys for herself.
-Men have to understand what women value in men rather than trying to fit an image.
-Modern men in Western society are suffering from a lack of ambition.
-Marriage requires both parties to go all in.
-Having “orbiters,” meaning men or women who hang around a person or engage with them as “friends” in the hopes that they can sleep with them and/or have a romantic relationship with them, is not a good thing. Orbiters tend to be shallow and often lack self-esteem. No one who knows their worth will maintain a relationship with someone with the goal of eventually “taking things to the next level.” Only narcissists entertain the company of and are desirous of orbiters.
-Life strategies vs dating strategies. If you work towards getting your life together, you won’t need a dating strategy.
-Men, stop acting like hoes and sissies.
-Everyone wants stability. The ones that have stability but don’t value it will find it boring. The ones who value it but don’t have it will always be the most loyal partners when they meet the person who provides a stable life.
-You don’t have to be wealthy to be successful
-We live in a world that runs on money, so it’s important. However, having a lot of money creates as many problems as it solves.
-A woman cannot submit to a man’s personality. Personality is like cologne. It attracts and is pleasant to take in, but is fleeting and requires regular and frequent maintenance.
-Modern men and women seek unearned benefits from each other. Most are disappointed and unhappy because unearned benefits are unfulfilling.
-A woman can sacrifice a man’s personality as it has little value in the grand scheme of things.
-Intrinsic value vs cultivated value. Intrinsic value is fixed and immutable. Cultivated value is earned and built over time. Intrinsic value is instinctive. Cultivated value requires effort, experience, and discipline. One is no better than the other. You need to have and recognize both to be a complete person and be the best version of yourself.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 
