It’s not biology that makes the dual mating strategy selfish — it’s the way modern humans use it as a loophole to get maximum benefits with minimum responsibility. The term “dual mating strategy” often gets thrown around like a biological trump card. Women want a safe provider and an exciting lover. Men want a loyal […]
Is 55 Old?
A Reflective & Personal Analysis As of this writing, I just turned 56 years old (God bless). When I turned 55, I had had an amazing epiphany about my life and how what I have experienced up to this point has shaped my present and how it might shape my future. This post is based […]
What Women Mean When They Say “Good Hygiene”
(And Why Men and Women Are Often Talking Past Each Other) When women say “hygiene matters,” most men hear: “She wants me to use expensive products, follow beauty rituals, and achieve perfection.” That’s not what women mean. Good hygiene isn’t about luxury, vanity, or aesthetics. It’s about sending the proper signals—emotional, physical, and psychological cues […]
Why Affair Partners Almost Never Replace the Spouse Long-Term
(And Why the Ones That Do Still Fail) Affairs sell a powerful fantasy: “We’re different.” “This is real.” “If circumstances were different, we’d be together.” Circumstances do change. The outcome almost never does. Affair partners rarely replace betrayed spouses long-term—and when they do, the relationship usually collapses under the weight of how it began. The […]
Why HIV (and Other STDs) Should Scare You Out of Cheating and Promiscuity
There are risks you can recover from. A bad investment? You rebuild. A failed business? You pivot. A broken relationship? You heal. But some decisions permanently alter your biology. And that’s where HIV — and other sexually transmitted diseases — stop being abstract “health class topics” and start being life-altering realities. 🦠 HIV Is Not […]
The Road to Heaven Feels Like Hell
And the Road to Hell Feels Like Heaven Everyone wants the reward. Very few are willing to live the process. That’s the lie modern life sells you. If it feels good now, it must be right. If it hurts now, it must be wrong. The image that opens this post speaks a truth most people […]
Top 10 Reasons People Choose to Cheat
His & Hers Edition Cheating is rarely about sex. It’s about character, incentives, and unaddressed personal issues — filtered through gendered psychology. Let me be very clear in this post, this isn’t a justification list. HIS: Top 10 Reasons Men Choose to Cheat 1. Opportunity + Low Consequence Men cheat most when: This is why […]
7 Hard Truths Most People Learn Too Late
Preface: I came across the image that opens this post and it inspired me to write about it. I’ve come across versions of each of these “hard truths” separately, but never seen them put together in one place or one graphic. I hope my post breaks down these truths in a way that properly illuminates […]
The Money Miser Is No Better Off Than the Big Spender
Most people think financial wisdom exists on a straight plane. On one end is the reckless big spender—luxury cars, designer labels, overpriced vacations, and debt dressed up as “success.” On the other end is the money miser—the person who hoards every dollar, refuses joy, delays life indefinitely, and treats spending as a moral failure. The […]
🧠 Stoic vs Emotional Reactions to Gentrification
A Side-by-Side Reality Check (Using Baltimore as the lens & Why Cities Never Love You Back) I live within a “stone’s throw” from Baltimore. It’s no secret to those that live in and around Baltimore that the city has undergone extensive changes due to gentrification over the past two decades. A process that continues unabated as of […]
The Rational Ram 