The Rational Ram

I looked down at my blue Longines HydroConquest while sitting in my Corvette and thought about how easily enjoyment can turn into comparison. And remember, comparison is the thief of joy… Here is a watch I wanted, bought, and enjoy wearing. The blue dial catches the light beautifully. The bracelet and case have the presence […]

I looked down at my Citizen Satellite Wave X today (as of this writing) and thought about how strange this watch collecting hobby can be. Here is a watch I enjoy looking at every time I wear it. I enjoy wearing it and I trust it to do its only real job. Timekeeping. Yet somewhere […]

Instagram is often dismissed as “just another social media app.” It isn’t. It is one of the most sophisticated marketplaces for cheap attention ever created, built around one simple premise: People give all kinds of attention away for free because people like to look at the people looking at them. The problem is that human […]

One of the most fascinating paradoxes in modern dating has nothing to do with men versus women. It has everything to do with alignment. Listen to people long enough and you’ll hear a familiar story. A financially struggling man says he wants a woman who is responsible, dependable, and stable. An attractive but emotionally needy […]

There is a persistent belief that marriage requires people to choose between two fundamentally different kinds of relationships. You can have passion, excitement, and unpredictability—or you can have safety, stability, and commitment. But apparently, you cannot have both. According to this thinking, passionate relationships are thrilling but unreliable. Stable marriages are dependable but eventually become […]

“I refuse to settle.” This phrase has become one of the most celebrated declarations in modern dating. Men and women alike say it proudly, usually as evidence of their confidence, self-respect, and “high standards.” Sometimes the phrase,when uttered, is exactly what it means. Oftentimes, it is a respectable-sounding excuse for rejecting reality. The problem is […]

“Where have all the good men gone?” It’s a question that appears everywhere—social media, podcasts, dating apps, and conversations between friends. The implication is that good men have somehow disappeared. I don’t believe they have. I think many people are simply looking in the wrong places. The loudest men are rarely the most dependable. The […]

He honors the woman he loves. He remains loyal, even when no one is watching. He treats her with respect every day. He values her thoughts, feelings, and perspective. He keeps his promises. He communicates honestly, even when it’s difficult. He protects the relationship rather than creating unnecessary conflict. He supports her goals without feeling […]

Redefining What It Means to Own Something Exceptional Luxury has become one of the most misunderstood words in our vocabulary. For many, luxury is measured by price, exclusivity, or the admiration of strangers. The more expensive the object, the more luxurious it is presumed to be. If it requires years on a waiting list or […]

I recently came across the graphic that opens this post on Facebook offering “The 6 Laws of Maturity.” You know the type of seemingly enlightened advice often propagated on social media. Stop telling people everything. Choose your friends wisely. Expect nothing and appreciate everything. Trust the process. Control yourself instead of others. Learn to react […]