Don’t waste your time with someone you are attracted to who isn’t mutually attracted to you.
I decided to pivot from commenting on political topics or controversial issues. While I may occasionally delve into such topics in the future, I no longer find any cathartic value or benefit to dedicating my time to such topics.
This post is the first in what I intend to be a long series dedicated to poignant quotes about relationship dynamics.
The quote above is a dynamic that I suspect most of us have experienced at least once in our lives.
Unrequited affection or attraction to someone.
It should be obvious that we shouldn’t waste our precious time and energy pursuing relationships with people who don’t want such relationships with us, but the human heart is an interesting thing, and the heart wants what it wants without logic or reason.
Unrequited crushes are mostly harmless individual life lessons that teach us to “get in where we fit in,” and to rethink our desires and behaviors when approaching romantic relationships.
We often confuse “lust” with “love” (another quote for another post), and this often leads us to relentlessly pursue romance with the “idea” of our object of desire rather than the person supposedly embodied by that misguided idea.
The human heart often sees what it wants to see. Without timely intervention by the human mind, these misguided desires often lead to profound heartbreak or sometimes worse. Unhealthy obsessions have started that way.
True love and mutual attraction is never forced and feels natural, for both sides of the relationship.
There are no fairy tales. If you have to work for someone’s love, then you are probably making the mistake of caring about someone who doesn’t view you the same way.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 