Sex Isn’t as Important as People Think (and Here’s Why That Scares People)

We’ve been sold a lie: that sex is the core of a relationship.

That without constant fireworks, you’re in the wrong relationship.

That more sex means more love.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth:

Great sex can’t fix a broken relationship.

If you can’t communicate, trust, or respect each other, all sex does is delay the breakup. Lack of sex doesn’t always mean lack of love.

Life changes—kids, stress, health, aging. Real love survives seasons when intimacy slows down, as it inevitably does.

People cling to sex as a distraction. It’s easier to measure “how often” than to face harder questions like:

Do we trust each other?

Do we actually like each other?

Sex is chemistry. Love is commitment.

One burns fast, the other holds steady.

Without the second, the first is just temporary entertainment. Some couples mistake lust for compatibility. You can have the best sex of your life with someone you’d never build a life with.

The truth is, sex is one piece of the puzzle.

Important? Yes.

Irreplaceable? No.

Because when the passion fades—and it always changes—what’s left is who you actually are together.

If you can’t love them without the sex, you never loved them in the first place.

-The Rational Ram