Let’s be honest: the problem with modern dating isn’t a “shortage of good men” problem. It’s a shortage of women willing to date outside their Instagram fantasies problem.
I posted about the delusional dating metric of the “six sixes” before. To recapitulate, the six sixes go as follows…
The ideal man to date should meet the criteria below:
-A six-figure income
-At least six feet tall
-At least a six-inch penis
-At least six months out of a previous relationship
-Six-pack abdominals
-Own at least six luxury properties, or in some online forums, a 600 horsepower car.
In this post, I focus on the first two criteria since they represent actual metrics that expose the delusional thinking at play here with practical data.
The hard reality is that only 15% of American men are six feet tall and only 10% of Americans (regardless of gender) make six figures.
The overlap?
Practically microscopic.
If you start factoring in the men who are shorter than six feet tall, married, gay, unattractive, overweight, etc., the percentages become even more microscopic.
If you’re a single woman in the dating market and these are your non-negotiable qualifiers, you’re not looking for a man; you’re shopping for a luxury brand.
And guess what?
The handful of men who check those boxes already know they’re rare.
They’re spoiled for choice.
They’re not lining up to pay for dinner with someone who thinks she’s “the prize” because she owns a ring light and a filter app.
Here’s another harsh truth:
The average American man is 5’9” and makes $60k.
He works a real job, pays real bills, and isn’t sliding into random DMs.
He’s not “settling” for you; you’re settling for a fantasy.
A fantasy that is highly unlikely to become a reality, and we’re only talking about the first two sixes.
If we add in the other four qualifiers and apply them to the same ideal man, that lowers the percentages to a truly mythical level.
While I am sure a man who meets all six “qualifications” exists somewhere on Planet Earth, I very highly doubt that 99.99% of available women will ever find him while he’s six months out of a relationship.
The simple reality is that while there is absolutely nothing wrong with having stringent dating standards, “stringent” should equate to “realistic,” not “delusional.”
If you’d rather grow old with your “standards” than with a good man, that’s your call. Just don’t cry “where have all the good men gone” when the guy you overlooked is building a family with a woman who actually recognizes his true worth and values him.
Date reality. Not delusion.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 