Social media didn’t just “change dating.” It straight-up turned love into a circus.
What used to be a private bond is now a public performance, a competition for clout, and a nonstop carousel of temptation. And people wonder why relationships don’t last anymore.
1. The Endless Meat Market
Instagram is Tinder with filters. Your partner isn’t just with you—they’re browsing a catalog of half-naked strangers every time they open the app.
Men are spoiled with options they’ll never earn, and women are spoiled with attention they’ll never respect.
Why work through problems when a “better” distraction is one DM away?
2. Validation > Love
Relationships used to be built on loyalty. Now they’re built on likes. Women chase blue checks; men chase body counts.
Instead of being content with one real partner, everyone’s addicted to the ego boost of strangers drooling over their curated highlight reel.
Real intimacy can’t compete with the dopamine hit of public validation.
3. Cheating Became Socially Acceptable
A heart reaction is flirting.
“Networking” is code for lining up backups.
Emotional cheating has been normalized because “it’s just online.”
Stop lying—if your partner’s attention is constantly being handed out to strangers, your relationship is already on life support.
4. Couples Are Dating for the Audience, Not Each Other
Proposals are content.
Vacations are content.
Breakups are content.
Social media has turned relationships into reality shows nobody asked for. If it’s not posted, people think it’s not real—and most of you are more worried about the perception of your relationship than the health of it.
5. Loyalty Is Now an Endangered Species
Men swipe endlessly for the “perfect” woman they’ll never commit to. Women drown in DMs from men they’ll never respect.
Everyone’s too busy window-shopping to appreciate the person they already have.
6. Real Love Looks Boring Online
Healthy relationships don’t “perform” well. They don’t have drama, thirst traps, or flashy content. So people chase chaos and aesthetics instead of stability.
No wonder dating feels like a rigged game—everyone’s too addicted to looking like they’re in love to actually be in love.
Final Reality Check:
Instagram didn’t ruin relationships. It just exposed what people really value:
Attention over intimacy.
Fantasy over reality.
Public validation over private loyalty.
If your relationship can’t survive without an audience, you were never in love—you were in a performance.
Modern relationships didn’t die because of Instagram; they died because most people would rather be desired by strangers than loved by one person.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 