I often view YouTube content that tells fictional and nonfictional stories about infidelity. I find this content fascinating because it seems that our modern society is more selfish and self-centered than previous generations.
This isn’t to say that infidelity is a new phenomenon, obviously this is not the case. However, I observed two things about infidelity in modern society that I find interesting:
- It appears that people are less patient and less committed in their relationships.
- When infidelity occurs in a relationship, the betrayed partner defaults to sheer anger.
It is the latter observation that I explore a bit in this post.
As a man who subscribes to the philosophy of Stoicism, I am of the mindset that…
When someone cheats on you, don’t get angry. Get done. Gain clarity. Make a plan.
Anger wastes energy.
Walking away in silence ends the game.
They wanted attention. They get none. Not from you. Anymore.
They wanted drama. You give them peace—and your absence.
Cheating is a neon sign flashing “This person is beneath you.”
You don’t fight over trash. You take it out.
The second someone betrays you, they disqualify themselves.
No second chances (though, circumstances might allow room for reconciliation)
No revenge plans.
No crying in their texts at 3 a.m.
They made their choice; now you make yours: move on, level up, and never look back.
Nothing rattles a cheater more than realizing you value yourself too much to even get mad.
That’s powerful, and you should harness that power rather than risk legal consequences because you lost control over your justifiable emotions.
Remember that when you are cheated on, seeking justice should be your goal, not revenge.
Justice is restorative, revenge is destructive to both sides. Never hurt yourself in the effort to hurt the people who hurt you.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 