A His & Hers Rundown
Let’s be honest: most people talk about wanting love, partnership, and depth—but their behavior screams vanity, ego, and surface-level desire.
Men and women chase different flavors of shallow, but both are guilty as hell.
Below is the breakdown of the behaviors no one wants to admit.
👩🦰 What Women Tend to Chase (Shallow Edition)
1. Height over Character
If he’s 6’0”+, she’ll excuse red flags, emotional immaturity, and laziness.
2. Lifestyle Illusions
She wants the appearance of status—vacations, restaurants, outfits—regardless of whether he’s drowning in debt.
3. “He Has Potential” (Translation: He Looks Good in Photos)
She’ll hype a broke dreamer as long as he can take good vacation selfies.
4. Jealousy Triggers = Validation
She doesn’t want a faithful man—she wants a man other women want.
5. “Type” Based on Vibes, Not Values
If he has tattoos, beard oil, or looks “mysterious,” she swears he’s deep.
6. Social Clout Over Actual Character
If other people think he’s desirable, that’s enough. Integrity is optional.
7. A Temporary Fix for Boredom
She’ll call it “chemistry,” but what she really wants is butterflies, drama, and dopamine.
8. The Illusion of Security
She confuses money with masculinity and stability with being boring.
👨 What Men Tend to Chase (Shallow Edition)
1. Beauty Over Substance
If she’s hot, everything else gets ignored—personality, values, chaos potential.
2. Body Type as a Life Decision
He chooses a future wife based on curves, not compatibility or character.
3. Youth as a Strategy
He doesn’t want a partner—he wants a walking anti-aging trophy.
4. Availability Over Standards
If she pays attention to him, that’s enough. He confuses interest with quality.
5. Social Proof = Legitimacy
If other men want her or other women envy her, he thinks he’s winning.
6. The “Cool Girl” Fantasy
He doesn’t want emotional maturity—he just wants someone who won’t question his habits.
7. Ego More Than Connection
He likes how she makes him feel about himself, not who she is.
8. Short-Term Peace Over Long-Term Wisdom
If she’s easygoing and attractive, he’ll ignore the fact she can’t build a life with him.
The Ugly Truth: Shallow Attracts Shallow
People say they want depth, but they date for aesthetics, status, attention, and ego boosts.
Women want to be envied.
Men want to be admired.
Neither screens for character until they’ve wasted time, energy, or dignity.
By the time people start asking, “Do we actually fit?”, they’re already in bed, in drama, or in too deep.
Closing Thoughts 💭
Most people don’t date who’s good for them—they date who looks good next to them.
You can chase shallow or build something real—but you rarely get both. At least not from the same person.
Half of dating isn’t about love—it’s about who you hope makes other people jealous.
The reality is that most people are silently jealous of couples who have built genuine, meaningful, solid, secure, and authentic relationships that can stand the test of time.
Aspire to authenticity, not the shallow validation that comes from relationships built around shallow values.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 