Ladies, there comes a point in a woman’s life when the thrill starts to fade — when the same kind of man who once made her heart race now just makes her eyes roll.
That’s usually the moment she realizes she’s spent too many years chasing “Chad” and “Tyrone.”
You know the type.
“Chad” is the charming, confident player — smooth talker, social butterfly, always knows exactly what to say.
To keep it real, “Chad” is code for a white man who fits this description.
“Tyrone” is Chad’s black equivalent— magnetic, mysterious, maybe a little wild. He’s the one with that edge, that swagger, that unbothered energy that somehow pulls you in even when you know better.
They’re exciting. They’re dangerous. They’re addictive.
And for a while, they make you feel alive.
The Addiction to the Chase
In your 20s, chasing Chad and Tyrone feels like a game you’re destined to win.
You lie to yourself.
You say to yourself that you’re different — that you’ll be the one who gets through to them. That all they need is the right woman, the right love, the right kind of patience.
But what you don’t realize is that the very thing that makes them so intoxicating — their independence, their mystery, their ego — is also what keeps them emotionally unavailable.
They give you just enough to hope for more, but never enough to build anything real.
The Moment It Hits a Woman
Then one day, it happens.
You’re sitting there — maybe scrolling through social media, maybe alone after another situationship that went nowhere — and it hits you like a quiet truth:
-You’ve been chasing validation, not love.
-You’ve been falling for attention, not affection.
-You’ve been addicted to men who made you feel wanted, but never chosen.
And suddenly, the thrill that once felt electric now feels empty.
When the Fantasy Fades
Chad and Tyrone never really change. They’re still out there — charming, smooth, saying all the right things to the next woman who hasn’t learned your lesson yet.
But you’ve changed.
Now, the same games that used to keep you hooked just make you tired.
You see through the late-night texts, the half-hearted plans, the emotional unavailability dressed up as “mystery…”
You don’t want chaos anymore. You want peace.
The Turning Point
That’s usually when you start noticing the men you used to overlook — the quiet ones, the kind ones, the consistent ones.
The men who call when they say they will. Who listen. Who make you feel calm instead of anxious.
They don’t have Chad’s charm or Tyrone’s swagger, but they have something neither of them ever gave you: safety.
And for the first time, safety feels sexy.
The Lesson
The moment a woman regrets chasing Chad and Tyrone isn’t a dramatic heartbreaking epiphany — it’s a gentle awakening.
It’s when she realizes that attraction without depth is just distraction.
It’s when she stops craving validation from the wrong men — and starts valuing peace with the right one.
Because in the end, what every woman learns — sometimes the hard way — is that excitement fades, but peace lasts.
And the man who gives you peace?
He’s the one you never have to chase.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 