A video clip from internet relationship guru and YouTuber Sadia Khan mentions something I’d frankly never considered with regard to “simping” and promiscuous behavior, particularly by women.
The gist of Sadia Khan’s statement is when desire becomes cheap and attention becomes free, the market collapses for the people who actually want love.
Modern dating isn’t broken by biology. It’s broken by behavior — specifically two behaviors that feed off each other like predators and parasites:
(1) Men who reward anything with their time, attention, money, or validation. AKA: simping.
(2) Women who treat intimacy like it’s endlessly renewable and without consequences.
Both create a distorted marketplace where sincerity loses, loyalty looks foolish, and effort feels pointless.
Let’s break that down.
Part I — “Simps”: Men Who Removed Standards from Supply and Demand
This isn’t mocking men who respect women.
Respect is strength.
This is about men who:
-Reward women who show no interest in them
-Confuse attention with attraction
-Fund lifestyles they aren’t invited into
-Pedestal strangers for existing
-Celebrate bare minimum behavior as “queen energy”
By overpaying with affection, validation, and resources…They inflate the value of the bare minimum.
Suddenly:
-A woman answering a text is “rare wifey material.”
-A woman with entitlement issues is “just knowing her worth.”
-Any boundary becomes “toxicity.”
When attention becomes easy, gratitude disappears.
Women don’t become villains — they just adjust to the incentives.
Part II — Promiscuous Behavior: When Intimacy Loses Its Meaning
Again — this isn’t moral policing. Adults can do what they want.
But intimacy shapes expectations and trust in future relationships.
When hookup culture becomes the norm:
-Pair bonding weakens
-Emotional investment lags behind physical access
-Loyalty feels like a downgrade after experiencing “variety”
-The thrill of novelty becomes the baseline
You can’t binge on fireworks and expect candles to satisfy you.
The tragedy?
Even people who want commitment get caught in the blast radius:
-Good men assume every woman has a rotation
-Good women assume every man is running options
-No one wants to go all-in first
-Everyone fears being played, used, or having their time wasted
Trust collapses.
Suspicion becomes the default.
How These Two Behaviors Feed Each Other
It forms a vicious cycle:
1️⃣ Simps flood the market with unconditional validation
2️⃣ Promiscuous behavior gets rewarded with endless attention
3️⃣ Standards erode on both sides
4️⃣ Everyone expects more and appreciates less
5️⃣ Nobody wants to commit if someone “better” might swipe right
The result?
A dating economy where loyalty feels like charity and genuine affection is drowned out by cheap attention.
But Here’s the Twist — Most People Don’t Even Want This…
Most men want:
-Respect
-Loyalty
-A real teammate; someone to build with
Most women want:
-Security
-Devotion
-A man who chooses them and shows up consistently
The majority still believe in love, not in games.
But the loudest, unserious minority sets the trends and poisons the pool.
The Way Out
It’s not complicated — it’s just uncomfortable…
For Men:
-Stop rewarding women who don’t respect you
-Raise your standards and enforce them
-Value your time more than your desire
For Women:
-Treat intimacy like a reflection of your self-respect
-Choose men who choose commitment
-Don’t confuse attention with admiration
For Both:
-Match your behavior with the relationship you actually want
When scarcity returns to attention and intimacy, appreciation returns with it.
Closing Thoughts 💭 The Truth Dating Apps Can’t Hide
If love is an investment, then cheap currency destroys the market.
Simps sell themselves short and sell men out in the process.
Promiscuous behavior sells intimacy short. For both men and women.
Both make genuine connection harder to buy in the sexual marketplace.
The laws of supply and demand are applicable to the things that enable people to form romantic relationships.
When the simp gives away free attention, validation, and resources, it devalues the very things that make men valuable in the eyes of women. Women no longer feel the need to earn those things from men, especially and including men they are in relationships with.
When the promiscuous woman doesn’t make a man, especially low-value men, earn sex, it devalues women.
Most people aren’t afraid of love.
They’re afraid of loving in a world where they expect to be replaced because the commodities men and women offer in the market is priced way too low thanks to low-value behavior.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 