Here is an incontrovertible and inconvenient reality…
There are more single women than single men.
The sex ratio is the number of men per 100 women in a given population.
In the United States, the sex ratio is 98.1.
Roughly speaking, that means that on pure mathematics alone, two out of every 100 women nationwide are single simply because there aren’t enough men to go around.
If we drill down to the state or city level, the ratio only worsens. In the state of Maryland, for example, there are 94.7 men per 100 women, so roughly 5 women in 100 will be without a male partner simply because there aren’t enough men to go around.
Here is a helpful link to the statistics I cited above:
https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/male-to-female-ratio-by-state
So if you’re still single, what does all of this mean for you statistically, ladies?
It means you are behind the power curve…
Not because you can’t win —but because too many women are chasing the same 5 guys with the same 5 bullet points:
-6 feet tall (only 15% of American men are 6 feet tall or taller)
–6 figure income (only 10% of Americans, regardless of gender, meet this criteria)
–6-pack abs
–flashy and “exciting”
–Instagram-ready lifestyle
Congratulations! 🎉 You turned the dating market into an endless line outside the club…
…and the bouncer is a 29-year-old man with mediocre character but endless options.
Part I — “All the good men are taken”
Taken?
No.
All the good men are ignored.
You didn’t see them because you likely aren’t checking for them because they’re…
-Too short.
-Too “boring.”
-Too 9-to-5.
-Too into you.
You went for, without realizing it until later at best:
-The guy who sees you as an audition
-The guy who texts 6 other women
-The guy who lives on attention and vibes
-The guy with commitment allergies and validation addictions
And now the sex ratio you likely didn’t realize existed is undermining your dating success, further exacerbated by your own shallow, unhealthy, or unrealistic preferences.
Part II — Men Have the Power Because Women Keep Giving It Away
When there are fewer of them and more of you, men can and often do…
-Ghost
-Breadcrumb
-Delay commitment
-Demand purity while offering nothing but chaos
-Exercise options they didn’t earn
Women respond to this by…
-Lowering their standards incorrectly (read: going after men they truly aren’t attracted to)
-Accepting hookups with the men they are attracted to, but who are emotionally detached and wind up in “situationships”
-Letting nonsense slide because “he’s hot”
You can’t win a rigged game by ignoring that the game is rigged.
Part III — The Fatal Miscalculation
You keep thinking:
“I’ll just level up and get a better man.”
He’s thinking:
“Why buy when everyone’s renting?”
Women: “Men are trash.”
Men: “Trash still gets picked up every Friday night.”
And not for recycling…
Part IV — Here’s How You Actually Win (Before It’s Too Late)
1️⃣ Stop dating like you’re selecting décor
You want a man who looks good in pictures instead of one who shows up in real life.
Stop doing that.
The man you need isn’t going to look like or act like the man you have been conditioned to want.
That doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice physical attraction. Don’t date someone you aren’t attracted to just because he has a good personality, income, and is into you, but you aren’t into him.
This piece of advice only means that you shouldn’t dismiss a guy who is 5’9,” makes $60k but is still improving himself, and drives a Honda, but is otherwise someone you are attracted to.
You can still build a life with a guy like that.
2️⃣ Prioritize men who prioritize commitment
If you want a husband, stop dating men who hate the idea of being one.
This speaks for itself.
3️⃣ Give chances to men who try
Effort is rare in a market where men don’t need to give any.
A man obviously on his grind and has a clear purpose is a man you can build with.
4️⃣ Leave the zoo
If all the lions are taken, stop flirting with the monkeys swinging from relationship to relationship.
5️⃣ Timing matters
You can’t spend your peak years on men who peaked in high school.
Part V — The Savage Reality Check
Are there are more single women than single men?
Yes.
But there are WAY more delusional standards than marriage proposals.
The market rewards the women who:
-Compete smart
-Sort fast
-And choose the man who chooses them
Because here’s the truth most won’t admit…
It’s better to be loved by one “average” man who treasures you…
than used by a thousand “top tier” men who don’t.
Pick the man who invests in you, not the one who treats you like a placeholder.
Closing Thought 💭
The sex ratio isn’t your enemy. It’s simply reality. There are 10 states where the statistics are either even are skewed against men.
A single woman could improve her chances of finding a desirable male partner by moving to one of these states and away from places like Atlanta. Miami. New York. Washington DC, or LA, that have the worst sex ratios in the country, and the most hyper-competitive dating environments on Earth. However, that may not be a viable or preferable option.
There is a much more insidious enemy working against you that is far easier to conquer…
Your tastes and preferences in men.
Fix that — and the math fixes itself. No matter where you live.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 