Preface: This post is meant to highlight the tactics that the miscreants who call themselves players use to lure married women into illicit affairs.
Recognition of the tactics is essential to see the shallowness in them…
Some men chase single women for the thrill of conquest.
Others chase married women for the thrill of corruption.
Going after married women isn’t about seeking love — it’s about stroking egos, experiencing the excitement of taking risks, and obtaining validation through seduction.
1. The Target: Boredom Wearing a Wedding Ring
Players who hunt married women don’t look for beauty — they look for boredom.
They sense the quiet resentment in her tone, the half-hearted smile when she talks about her husband, the absence of spark in her eyes.
They read that like a radar signal: emotional vacancy detected.
They know she’s not looking to leave — just to feel alive again.
And that’s all a good player needs — a pulse of dissatisfaction.
2. The Hook: Emotional Contrast
He doesn’t compete with her husband on stability.
He competes on contrast.
Where her husband is predictable, the player is spontaneous.
Where her husband is silent, he listens — not because he cares, but because attention is bait.
He mirrors her emotions like a con artist mirrors a mark.
The moment she feels seen, she feels safe enough to sin.
3. The Bait: Validation Without Obligation
Married women are starved for appreciation, not attention.
The player knows this…
He offers flattery with emotional nuance — not “you’re hot,” but “you’re wasted on him.”
It’s not lust — it’s justification.
At this point, the bait is hooked…
He makes the affair seem like her idea.
He never seduces her — he invites her to feel misunderstood.
At this point, she takes the bait…
4. The Play: The Illusion of Depth
Once she takes the bait, the player plays the long game of “forbidden intimacy.”
He becomes her emotional outlet.
Her therapist. Her secret. Her escape hatch.
He offers her what marriage stopped giving her — curiosity.
But the player’s empathy has an expiration date.
Once he wins, the mystery dies.
He doesn’t want her — he wants the satisfaction of taking her away from another man.
5. The Real Motivation: Power, Not Pleasure
This game isn’t about sex. It’s about power over the powerful.
Every married woman conquered is a husband humiliated, a system mocked.
It’s a quiet rebellion against commitment itself — a way for the player to feel like he’s above rules other men obey.
The affair isn’t the reward — the disruption is.
Closing Thoughts 💭
Players who chase married women aren’t seducing wives —they’re stealing mirrors.
They want to see themselves reflected as irresistible, dangerous, and unforgettable, even if they have to ruin someone’s peace to prove it.
The downside to this game is that it can, and often does, end badly, not just for the wife “stolen” away from her husband or for the husband and any children involved, but for the player himself.
You never know how people will react to infidelity.
There are literally thousands of stories where a jilted husband not only kills his cheating wife, but her paramour.
The cheating wife might want more than the slick player was obviously willing to give, and when she is eventually disappointed, she might snap on the player she threw her husband away for.
There are a few women serving prison sentences for getting even with a player who they ruined their lives for
Married women who are unhappy in their marriages might be “easy prey,” but the potential downsides aren’t worth picking the low-hanging fruit.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 