Let’s get something straight…
Discernment is good. Prejudice is lazy.
The modern manosphere teaches men to judge women by the most superficial, context-free metrics possible:
• body count
• job title
• social media
• whether she dances in clubs
• tattoos
• past relationships
• whether she has male friends
• any whiff of sexuality that isn’t locked in a basement
Meanwhile, the same men will brag about “thinking logically.”
But judgment without context?
That’s not logic.
That’s insecurity hooked up to a microphone.
Let’s talk about the stripper thing first, because that’s the confused, illogical man’s favorite punching bag.
1. A woman being a stripper does not automatically tell you her values, character, or capacity for loyalty.
The manosphere acts like:
stripper = guaranteed chaos
while
engineer = wife material.
Reality isn’t that tidy.
Women strip for all kinds of reasons:
• financial survival
• bad odds in life
• supporting a family
• escaping low wages
• short-term hustle
• career transition
• empowerment
• or yes, sometimes for attention or validation
But here’s the truth:
Motivation matters more than the job.
Some of the most disciplined, focused, resilient women you’ll ever meet are dancers who built themselves from nothing.
And some of the most emotionally chaotic, unreliable, narcissistic women you’ll ever meet have “respectable” careers and a LinkedIn profile that deserves an award.
Men who judge strippers instantly are not “protecting themselves.”
They’re outsourcing their thinking to influencers.
Judge the person, don’t default to narrow-minded stereotypes.
There is an old saying…
Prejudice seldom survives experience.
2. The manosphere’s “red flags” list says more about men’s fears than women’s behavior.
A lot of men aren’t vetting women — they’re projecting their insecurities onto women.
They think:
“She has options, therefore she must be disloyal.”
“She’s attractive, therefore she must cheat.”
“She’s sexual, therefore she must be reckless.”
“She posts online, therefore she must be for the streets.”
Men overestimate a women’s potential narcissism because they underestimate their own real insecurity.
A woman having:
• beauty
• confidence
• experience
• male attention
• financial independence
does not mean she lacks loyalty or depth.
It just means she isn’t dependent on you.
Some men confuse “non-dependent” with “dangerous.”
3. A woman’s job does not determine her morals — her choices do.
Stripper.
Nurse.
Attorney.
Receptionist.
Teacher.
Barista.
Influencer.
Software engineer.
You can find amongst all of these professions:
• angels
• manipulators
• narcissists
• ride-or-dies
• drama addicts
• quiet gems
• genuine partners
Morality is behavior.
Integrity is behavior.
Loyalty is behavior.
Character is behavior.
The manosphere loves labels because labels are easy. “Easy” sells books, sells subscriptions, sells “self-improvement” conferences…
People often look for shortcuts to explain the things that frustrate them rather than think for themselves.
But real men don’t need shortcuts —they can read people, not job titles.
4. The manosphere confuses “high standards” with “low tolerance.”
“Never date a woman who is X.”
“Instant disqualifier if she is Y.”
“If she has Z, run.”
This is not strength.
It’s emotional laziness.
High standards:
“I choose partners based on values, maturity, stability, growth, kindness, loyalty, and compatibility.”
Low tolerance:
“I eliminate women based on a meme.”
High standards require “logical masculinity.”
Logical masculinity is the discipline of thinking clearly, acting intentionally, and staying grounded when everything around you is chaotic.
Low tolerance requires fear.
Fear is the antithesis of logic thinking.
Remember, evolutionary psychology proves than men collectively fear betrayal from their women. The manosphere has convinced men that a stripper can’t possibly be loyal.
On an individual level, that is a snap judgment made without context. Context always matters.
5. A man who judges harshly usually can’t compete in real dating markets.
Let’s be honest…
Men who constantly preach…
“Don’t date strippers.”
“Don’t date pretty women.”
“Don’t date women with options.”
“Don’t date women with confidence.”
…are usually men who can’t handle competition, boundaries, or accountability.
They want a woman who is:
• inexperienced,
• naive,
• isolated,
• dependent,
• impressed by crumbs,
• with low relational standards.
That’s not “vetting wisely.”
That’s “dating down to feel up.”
Real men don’t need a woman to be weak in order for them to feel strong.
6. The real questions men should ask about ANY woman are simple:
Forget the stereotypes. Ask a woman you see as a potential partner…
• How does she handle conflict?
• Does she take accountability?
• Can she regulate her emotions?
• Does she betray trust easily?
• Does she treat men with respect?
• Is she consistent?
• Does she choose growth?
• Can she love without games?
• Does she communicate honestly?
• How does she behave when she’s mad, hurt, or tempted?
The answers to these questions, and some are not questions you ask her, just observations you should make, will tell you everything you truly need to know.
Her job title or profession tells you almost nothing.
The Conclusion the Manosphere Won’t Admit
There are strippers who might make and have become phenomenal wives.
There are corporate women who might make and have turned out to be disastrous wives.
There are shy, innocent-looking women who will emotionally gut you.
There are tattooed dancers who are the most loyal human beings you’ve ever met.
Character is not visible on a resume,
or a stage
or a pole
or a profession
or a body count
or a social media bio.
Character is revealed through behavior, not labels.
Should men vet women?
Absolutely.
But men should vet wisely, not blindly.
Stop judging women on autopilot.
Stop thinking in memes.
Stop outsourcing your brain to angry content creators.
Use discernment.
Use maturity.
Use experience.
Use reality — not online ideology.
Because a real man judges with clarity, not with fear disguised as logical masculinity.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 