If you learned your relationship philosophy from influencers, congratulations! 🎉
You’re officially a soldier in someone else’s insecurity war. 👏🙄
1. Let’s Start by Dragging the Manosphere Clowns
These are the dudes who hop on a podcast or on YouTube wearing $14 sunglasses telling millions of young men:
“YOU are the prize because you make money and women age.”
Buddy, you live in a rented Airbnb, your shirt is three sizes too small, and the only women near you are paid to sit on camera and pretend you’re interesting.
Manosphere Archetype #1: “The Alpha Coach” Who’s Forever Single
He preaches about being a “high-value man” from a hotel lobby at 2 AM.
Says men are the prize, but he can’t keep a woman beyond 90 days, and thinks emotional maturity is a “beta trait.”
Manosphere Archetype #2: The “Frame God” Podcaster
He says men should “never chase,” yet he chases TikTok virality like his next meal depends on it.
Calls women “low value,” but his entire self-worth depends on their attention.
Manosphere Archetype #3: The “Simp Police” Influencer
Calls any man who loves his wife a simp.
Meanwhile, he’s crying on his burner account because a girl he met on IG left him on read.
These men don’t want you to build relationships.
They want you to build their engagement numbers.
2. Now Let’s Torch the Feminist Influencer Brigade
Feminist TikTok has its own delusional queens yelling:
“YOU are the prize, sis! Men should EARN you!”
Sis, you ghost guys who message you respectfully, but you cry on Instagram stories about why dating is “so hard.”
Feminist Archetype #1: The “Self-Respect Coach” Who Has None Offline
Teaches young women to never settle, never compromise, never initiate, never let a man “feel too comfortable.”
And then texts her ex at 1:13 AM every Saturday.
Feminist Archetype #2: The “Male Trash” Microphone Warrior
Says women are the prize, but can’t explain why she’s still single at 33 and lecturing teenagers about relationships she’s never kept.
Feminist Archetype #3: The Delusion Saleswoman
Screams:
“A real man will chase you forever!”
“Your standards can never be too high!”
“If a man wants you, he’ll do ALL the work!”
Yet her own relationships are shorter than a midget on his knees.
These women aren’t teaching empowerment.
They’re teaching entitlement coated in glitter.
3. The Shared Lie Both Sides Sell You
The manosphere tells men:
“YOU are the prize.”
Feminist influencers tell women:
“YOU are the prize.”
Both are selling the same message:
“You don’t need to improve because you’re already perfect.”
It’s crack cocaine for insecure people.
But in the real world?
If you think you’re “the prize,” you’re probably “the problem.”
4. Why The “I’m the Prize” Mentality Creates Mentally Weak Partners
Prize mentalities breed:
- Narcissism
- Fragile egos
- Zero accountability
- Lazy dating behavior
- People who want praise without effort
- Partners who keep score like toddlers fighting over crayons
You end up with two people saying:
“I deserve more.”
And zero people saying:
“Let me contribute more.”
That is not a relationship.
That is an ego cage match.
5. The Relationship Is the Prize — Here’s Why
Because:
- Looks fade
- Money fluctuates
- Status shifts
- Bodies change
- Life punches EVERYONE in the face. Hard.
If YOU are the prize, then the moment you’re imperfect, you’re disposable.
If THEY are the prize, then the moment they slip, you resent them.
But if the relationship is the prize?
You both protect it.
You both work for it.
You both grow with it.
You both win.
A healthy relationship is a kingdom both people build, not a crown one person wears.
6. The Harsh Truth No Influencer Will Tell You
Influencers tell you YOU’RE the prize because it’s the easiest way to manipulate you:
- It keeps you consuming their content.
- It feeds your ego.
- It never advises you to change.
- It keeps you wedded to their ideology.
- It keeps you blaming the opposite gender instead of growing.
The moment you realize that the relationship is the prize, you no longer need them.
And that’s bad for business.
Closing Thought đź’
Anyone telling you that YOU are the prize is selling you on servicing your own ego.
Anyone telling you the relationship is the prize is selling you on maturity.
Only one of these leads to something worth keeping…
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 