His & Hers Edition — The Honest, No-Delusion Breakdown
Your sexual market value isn’t static. It spikes, dips, shifts, flips, and sometimes collapses depending on the decade you’re in.
If you understand the pattern, you will date with leverage. If you don’t, you will date blindly.
Most people cling to a fantasy version of their value:
- Men think they become irresistible with age.
- Women think they can outsmart biology.
- Both genders think personality can override everything.
- Neither wants to admit the market responds to patterns, not wishes
Here’s the unvarnished truth both genders need to hear — decade by decade.
TEENS (15–19): The Illusion Phase
Women:
- SMV is based almost entirely on raw youthfulness.
- Beauty is unrefined, but demand for them is high.
- Extremely deceptive because male attention ≠ adult commitment.
- This phase builds false confidence in many women that for some become a lifelong delusion.
Men:
- Essentially zero SMV; men at this stage are virtually invisible in the dating market.
- Zero resources, zero status, zero confidence.
- Almost all male “value” at this stage is based upon potential, not on realized accomplishments.
- Often develop insecurities at this stage that can carry well into adulthood. For many, it can linger for a lifetime.
Reality Check:
Teen SMV is fantasy SMV.
Nobody should make long-term conclusions about their desirability at this stage.
20s: The Divergence Decade
This is where the male and female SMV curves split like a fork in the road.
WOMEN in their 20s: “Peak Demand”
- Women at this level receive the highest overall attention they will receive in their lives.
- Biological peak meets modern beauty culture; presents lifelong challenges later if mismanaged.
- Male competition for them is fierce.
- Men of all ages pursue them.
- Easy to confuse the overwhelming male attention and competition as a sign of valuable options.
- Male attention leads to women at this stage becoming overly-selective, resulting in an inflated sense of entitlement.
Core SMV Factors: looks, vibe, vitality, femininity, lifestyle discipline
Silent Risk:
Overestimating long-term SMV because the short-term SMV is so inflated.
MEN in their 20s: “Building Years”
- Low external SMV, high internal potential.
- Women his age prefer slightly older men.
- Career, body, confidence, social and emotional intelligence are all under construction at this stage.
- The vast majority of men at this point date from a scarcity mindset rather than an abundance mindset due to limited options
Core SMV Factors: ambition, fitness, direction, discipline
Silent Risk:
Believing this decade defines them forever — it doesn’t.
30s: The Great SMV Inversion
This is the decade that produces the most resentment, confusion, and gender-war content online — for a reason.
WOMEN in their 30s: “Realignment”
- Looks are still strong, but their youth premium either shifts or wanes depending on how well they care for themselves.
- Value becomes lifestyle-dependent, not virtually effortless.
- Emotional stability matters more than beauty.
- Men become pickier about long-term compatibility.
- Serious women are still hotly pursued; chaotic-women are actively avoided.
High-SMV 30s Women Traits: fit, emotionally stable, feminine, low-chaos, peaceful energy, structured life
Silent Risk:
Falling prey to the false narrative that men don’t want 30 year old women — they do.
They just want the right kind of 30 year old woman.
MEN in their 30s: “Rise Phase (If They Did the Work)”
- Competence + confidence = attractiveness
- Career stability starts paying off.
- Emotional intelligence increases.
- More attractive to women at ages 25–45 depending on lifestyle.
- Men with discipline see a massive SMV boost.
High-SMV 30s Men Traits: fitness, ambition, emotional maturity, confidence, social intelligence, financial stability
Silent Risk:
Men assume the rise is automatic — it isn’t.
If he wasted his 20s, his 30s will feel like a second coming of his difficult 20s (only with less energy).
40s: The Divergence Reverses… Again
This is where life experience becomes the SMV multiplier — or the anchor holding you down.
WOMEN in their 40s: “Selective Appeal”
- SMV becomes niche, but powerful to the right men.
- Health, fitness, and emotional maturity make massive differences in terms of SMV vs beauty and fertility.
- Chaotic women fall off the cliff.
- Peaceful, vibrant, feminine 40s women become incredibly desirable to mature men.
Core SMV Factors: discipline, warmth, vitality, emotional peace
Silent Risk:
Believing in feminist empowerment slogans instead of dating market feedback.
MEN in their 40s: “Peak or Plateau”
Men either:
Peak:
- Fit
- Financially stable
- Socially confident
- Emotionally developed
- Purpose-driven
- Maintain a distinguished look
Plateau or Crash:
- Overweight
- Financially stressed
- Bitter
- Stagnant
- Divorced + unresolved issues
- Addictive coping behaviors
Silent Risk:
Men mistake age for value when their value is actually tied to their life trajectory.
50s: The Stability SMV
At this age, chaos kills SMV for both genders.
WOMEN in their 50s: “Quality Over Quantity”
- SMV isn’t defined by volume; it’s defined by depth
- Women who took care of themselves mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially are valuable to emotionally mature men who want peace and companionship.
- The most attractive women at this point are women who stayed healthy, grounded, and joyful.
- Emotional intelligence becomes the most valuable new beauty trait.
Silent Risk:
Living off nostalgia instead of lifestyle maintenance.
MEN in their 50s: “Legacy SMV”
- SMV depends almost entirely on health, financial shape, and emotional resilience.
- Men who aged well have elite appeal.
- Men who aged poorly become invisible.
- Women in this age range prioritize stability and character heavily.
Silent Risk:
Thinking success at 40 guarantees relevance at 50.
60s and Beyond: The Character Era
By this point, the unvarnished truths about life your ancestors tried to teach become a solid reality. You either listened and succeeded or you failed miserably.
Looks fade (but stupid lasts forever)
Status fades.
Money stabilizes.
But character doesn’t age.
For both genders, SMV in the 60s+ is determined by:
- Health
- Emotional peace
- Companionship value
- Lifestyle quality
- Shared worldview
- Family bonds
- Joy
- Humor
- Lightness
At this stage:
SMV = the life you built + the energy you carry.
THE ULTIMATE TRUTH BOTH GENDERS MUST FACE
SMV is not a static score. It’s a moving target shaped by biology, behavior, discipline, geography, and emotional maturity.
Your SMV changes every decade because you change every decade.
Some people improve.
Some decline.
Some transform.
Some collapse.
But nobody escapes the curve.
Closing Thought 💭
If you understand your decade, you stop fighting the market and start playing the game you can actually win.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 