Let’s drop the fairy tales.
Yes, being pretty, thin, and young gets attention.
No, it does not buy commitment.
And pretending it does is why so many women are stuck in endless situationships with men who never choose them.
Translation: What Beauty Actually Buys You
Beauty buys:
- Messages
- Dates
- Casual sex
- Temporary priority
It does not buy:
- Exclusivity
- Effort
- Sacrifice
- Long-term investment
Attention is cheap.
Commitment is scarce.
The Big Lie Women Are Sold
You were told:
“If you’re attractive enough, the right man will lock you down.”
That advice expired the moment men got:
- Dating apps
- Infinite options
- Low-cost sex
- Social permission to delay commitment forever
Beauty used to have considerable leverage when access was scarce.
Now it’s table stakes.
Why Hot Women Keep Losing to “Nothing”
Let’s say the quiet part out loud.
You’re not losing to other women.
You’re losing to the gender (or sex) ratio and the advantages that it confers onto men.
Women are competing against a man’s peace, options, indifferent attitude, and most importantly, his willingness to wait and weigh his options before deciding to commit to a woman long term.
If a man is any combination of tall, attractive, financially stable, and emotionally regulated, he does NOT need to rush into a long term commitment to any woman.
And men don’t rush to commit to or acquire what’s easily replaceable.
The Situationship Delusion
Here’s the cycle many women are reticent to own or admit that they constantly find themselves in:
- She gets attention everywhere
- She assumes that level of attention means she has leverage
- She targets men above her ability to get them to commit to her long-term
- He enjoys the access, avoids labels (“girlfriend,” “my lady,” etc.)
- She says “I don’t want to pressure him into anything”
- Months or years pass
- He eventually leaves or she ends the situationship because he never commits
- She blames men, dating culture, or timing
Rinse. Repeat. Age.
Why Most Men Won’t Say This to Your Face…
Because men benefit from the misunderstanding.
If you think:
“I just need to be hotter”
You’ll:
- Tolerate ambiguity
- Accept crumbs of affection
- Stay uncommitted longer
- Compete silently with other women
From his perspective, the system is working perfectly.
The Uncomfortable Parallel
Men obsess over things like height, which if a man is under 6 feet tall, there isn’t much he can do about it, in the delusional thinking that being taller would magically fix everything.
Women chase beauty, which is always in the eye of the beholder and almost always misaligned with reality, under the delusion that it will fix everything.
Both are obviously wrong.
Height alone doesn’t guarantee a woman will find a man desirable.
Beauty alone doesn’t guarantee a woman will be chosen by the kind of man she wants.
Height and beauty are shallow filters, not substantive foundations.
Why “I’m a Catch” Isn’t Working Anymore
You’ll know you’re a catch as a woman if:
- Someone actually commits to you
- Someone invests in you
- Someone chooses you publicly
If all you have is attention, you’re not a catch — you’re entertainment.
Harsh? Yes.
False? No.
What Actually Makes Men Commit (And It’s Not Instagram Filters or BBLs)
Men commit where:
- Life is calm
- Drama is low
- Expectations are clear
- Respect is mutual
- Peace is predictable
The women who win long-term aren’t always the hottest.
They’re the least exhausting.
Real high-value men have a deeper, more expansive view of what makes a woman beautiful.
A woman who is beautiful in an understated manner beats the IG model every day of the week and twice on Sunday.
Final Thoughts 💭
Pretty women don’t lose because they aren’t pretty enough.
They lose because they confuse being wanted with being chosen.
Beauty opens doors.
Behavior decides who stays.
And if every relationship you’re in stays undefined, temporary, or “complicated,” the problem isn’t men — it’s the strategy you’re using and the type of men you find attractive.
Attention is not leverage.
Being “hot” is not rare.
Commitment is.
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 