The Rational Ram

If sex was a club, women are at the door with the velvet rope — but men run the registry at City Hall. The Unspoken Social Contract For centuries, society ran on a simple (if imperfect) exchange: women decided who got intimacy, and men decided who got commitment. It was a balance that worked because […]

I have posted several posts on the dual mating strategy, but I feel the need to clarify a couple of things. Firstly, the strategy isn’t just something women subscribe to. Men engage in their own version of the strategy. Secondly, there is a dark side, usually the endgame, to the strategy that always manifests itself. […]

The Not-So-Known Debate on Social Media This question blows up online every time it comes up. A man shows up with food for his kid, the mother has other kids from other men, and suddenly everyone is arguing: Should he feed just his own child—or all the kids in the house? I present the “case […]

Preface: I’ve written at least two previous posts about the female dual-mating strategy. To recap what the dual-mating strategy is, some women may seek long-term stability from one partner while simultaneously being drawn to traits (such as physical dominance, charisma, or confidence) in another partner—especially during fertile phases. The strategy, at some point in a […]

Sleeping with someone’s husband doesn’t make you powerful — it makes you the side character in a tragedy you wrote yourself. 1. It’s Not “Winning” — It’s Losing With Glitter You think you’ve stolen something. But all you really got was a man who was willing to betray the woman he vowed to love — […]

Preface: I haven’t touched alcohol in close to three years. My last drink was 24 October 2022. The day before my “rebirth,” also known as my open heart surgery 💙 I was never an alcoholic in the sense of being a “problem drinker.” When I drank alcohol, I did so “responsibly” 🙄. Which is to […]

Ladies, if your desire to be “more than a wife and a mother” is really just a desire to impress men who aren’t your husband, that’s not empowerment — that’s insecurity. 1. The Secret Audience in Her Head A lot of women don’t just want to feel “seen.” They want to feel seen by men […]

Preface: As a fan of Judge Judy, I absolutely love it when she reminds a young, beautiful, vibrant, and entitled woman litigant in her court that “beauty fades, stupid lasts forever.” That saying conveys a fundamental truth about life that few people accept or acknowledge until they live long enough to experience it first hand, […]

Oscar Wilde’s definition of a cynic still cuts like a knife: “What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.” He wrote that over a century ago — and it’s even truer today. 1. Price Without Perspective Cynics measure life in dollars and cents. They can tell […]

Let’s be real: after 50, a lot of couples start having less sex — sometimes none at all. But men and women often blame each other instead of looking at their own side of the equation. Here’s the truth, split down the middle — plus what each gender can do about it. For Men: Why […]