The Rational Ram

Preface: unlike my previous post on this topic, this post focuses on the mechanics, psychology, and relationship economics that make these types of affairs burn fast and die ugly. With the preface out of the way… Affairs where one party is “above” the other, typically socioeconomically, aren’t built on compatibility — they are built on […]

A His & Hers mirrored breakdown of downward infidelity. Her Side, His Side, Same Behavior → Different Drivers. People assume cheating is always hypergamous — “upward.” Cheating for someone better, hotter, richer, higher-status. But here’s the unvarnished truth… Most cheating — for both genders — happens downward. With someone “beneath” the partner they have. Because […]

If you learned your relationship philosophy from influencers, congratulations! 🎉 You’re officially a soldier in someone else’s insecurity war. 👏🙄 1. Let’s Start by Dragging the Manosphere Clowns These are the dudes who hop on a podcast or on YouTube wearing $14 sunglasses telling millions of young men: “YOU are the prize because you make […]

The manosphere uses the term “simp” the same way toddlers use crayons: messy, loud, and on anything they don’t understand. 1. The Manosphere’s False Premise: “Any Attention to Women = Simping” This is the manosphere’s biggest intellectual failure. They’ve collapsed all male behavior toward women into two categories: “Alpha” behavior (dominant, detached, cold, usually performative) […]

Preface: I must say up front that I’m not a big believer in SMV. I think the manosphere interpretation of the concept is pure copium and delusion. However, to completely dismiss the concept is rather foolhardy. I think SMV provides a framework for optimizing yourself that I think people should consider if they want to […]

Why both sides misunderstand Sexual Market Value—and what it actually is. The manosphere treats SMV like a stock chart. Feminists pretend it doesn’t exist. Both are wrong. Sexual Market Value is real—but not the way anybody online describes it. Let’s tear down the myths and build the real model. 1. What the Manosphere Thinks SMV […]

If love were enough, half of you wouldn’t be sobbing on TikTok, writing breakup essays, or “healing your inner child” after dating someone you knew damn well was never aligned with you. Men and women in this day and age tend to make terrible decisions when looking for love, and even after finding it. Not […]

At first glance, calling a beautiful woman “beautiful” seems polite—even flattering. But in reality, it’s often one of the most forgettable, ineffective, and unoriginal things you can say to her. Not because beauty isn’t worth appreciating—but because she’s heard it a thousand times, and it tells her nothing about you… or about how you actually […]

I preface this post by saying the following up front… Cheating sucks in every direction, but we both know this topic hits a nerve in online discussions and not-so-polite dinner party conversations. This post won’t be a defense of male sexuality vs female sexuality. This isn’t a manosphere-type “men are good, women are bad” argument. […]

The Real Answer Isn’t a Simple Yes or No Cheating is almost universally condemned — for good reason. It breaks trust, damages dignity, and wounds the person who believed they were chosen. But here’s the uncomfortable truth… Cheating rarely happens in a vacuum. It’s usually the final expression of problems that started months — or […]