I open part two of this three part series on deconstructing the so-called Manosphere with a preface…
The Manosphere is mostly an online phenomenon and is not representative of the thoughts and attitudes of most men. However, since most of us live online lives to some degree, to say that the red pill ideology running rampant online has not reached and exerted some influence on a significant number of men is not a logical or wise conclusion to draw, even if you have never heard of red pill ideology.
I can assure my readers that they likely know someone who at least consumes Manosphere content on some level, even if they do not subscribe to red pill ideology.
It is upon this basis that I endeavor to inform my readers about red pill ideology and expose its fallacious nature on my blog.
The more you know…
I have written about female hypergamy on this blog before. The term “hypergamy” simply means “marriage into an equal or higher caste or social class (than oneself)”
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/hypergamy
In the Manosphere, the term has since been redefined to further describe the (supposedly undesirable) female tendency to not just “marry up”, but to “date up” and only have sex with the men that are considered the most desirable (i.e. handsome, tall, buff, financially stable, etc.), leaving the less desirable men (i.e. not so handsome, short, fat, scrawny, financially unstable, etc.) out in the cold.
This female hypergamy narrative (built upon the foundation laid by SMV theory) is at the heart of the so-called “80/20 rule“, where supposedly 80% of the women are only interested pursuing relationships with the top 20% of men.
NOTE: The 80/20 rule above should not be confused with the Pareto principle prevalent in the business world, where it is theorized that 80% of effects come from 20% of causes. The Manosphere version of the 80/20 rule is likely a cheap ripoff of the Pareto principle.
https://www.thebalancecareers.com/pareto-s-principle-the-80-20-rule-2275148
This sort of thinking only serves to fuel the largely self-inflicted insecurities that infest the thoughts of most of the denizens of the Manosphere. I mean, it just has to be female nature or someone or something else at fault to explain why these men are not considered good enough to date or mate with, right?
To be fair, I do not think the concept of female hypergamy (as the Manosphere defines it) has no basis in fact. I posit that the empirical evidence strongly suggests that female hypergamy is a very real thing.
Just like SMV theory is strongly supported by empirical evidence, so too is female hypergamy.
Consider the following…
How many real-life stories are out there where the high-powered executive marries (or has an affair with) his secretary? How about the doctor that married one of the nurses on his ward? The six-figure guy that marries the waitress at his favorite restaurant?
Life is replete with true stories of men who engage in hypogamy, the inverse of hypergamy, or marrying or dating someone of a lower caste or social class than oneself. Men engaging in hypogamy is the basis for virtually every Disney fairytale in the history of the world.
Every little girl is culturally conditioned to believe in the efficacy of the fairytale ending where the beautiful peasant woman marries a handsome and wealthy prince or king. This is why Princess Diana (née Diana Spencer) is so revered and almost deified to this day. She was the epitome of the fairytale ending, at least up until her marital problems with Prince Charles, her subsequent royal divorce, and her problems living as a royal were revealed and now serve as a well-documented caveat that the fairytale ending may not reflect reality in the long term.
While female hypergamy has considerable basis in fact, at least empirically, my rebuttal to the Manosphere interpretation of it is that…
1. Everyone should be hypergamous!
What parent wants their daughter to marry a bum?
Should it not be everyone’s goal, man or woman, to date and mate with the highest quality partner you can find who will requite your affection?
2. Women engage in hypogamy too.
As mentioned in my rebuttal of SMV theory, not every woman has the same definition of what makes for a high-quality man.
What is considered a high-quality man in New York or Los Angeles is not exactly the same thing as what makes a man high-quality in Dallas, or Seattle, or Birmingham, or Fairbanks, or Bangor.
There are plenty of women who date, mate, and marry “down“. If this were not the case, the conservative Christian American Heartland would not exist and idealistic young people would never hastily and foolishly have children before they can move out of their parents’ basement.
Like other tenets of red pill ideology, female hypergamy is just another excuse for its low-quality denizens to complain and excuse their inadequacies and insecurities.
Female hypergamy is not something men should fear. In fact, a hypergamous woman actually has standards. Granted, those standards might not be realistic (see the opening photo above or the link below), depending upon the individual woman, but men and women alike should know what they want in a mate.
https://muriithimartin.blogspot.com/2011/08/six-sixes-how-women-judge-and-choose.html?m=1
After all, you will never get what you want if you do not know what you want.
Next up: “Women hitting the wall”
-The Rational Ram
The Rational Ram 
This is true!!!! My wife was happy with me, had sex with me when I had a high paying job. But I quit, because of the stress and her saying that I never wanted to go anywhere when I was off work. So I got a much lower paying job, which I love and the sex stopped. 15 years later I’m happier, except the whole sex thing. Thinking of leaving her, she was only happy with me when I made good money!!!! Couldn’t care less that I make ok money and am happy.
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Jajajajaja… seguro la mayoria de chicos se pelea por la mas fea que encuentran… ayyy no… eso no sucede… asi que si vemos a una chica abrir una cuenta erotica para ganar mas dinero… ¿a quien le hace mas caso?
A. El mas guapo
B. El mas inteligente
C. El mas divertido
D. El que mas pague por su atencion
Como chico… se que la D es la opcion mas posible
Como subscriptor de modelos virtuales… se que la D es la opcion real
Obvio… es interes… ayyy pobrecitas decimos una verdad comprobable
Seguro las chicas no tienen en cuenta el factor economico al establecer una relacion
Alla afuera hay “millones” de chicas manteniendo a sus novios y esposos…. xD
Una perdida de tiempo leer tanta estupidez subjetiva…
LOS CHICOS NOS QUEDAMOS CON LA QUE NOS ALCANCE NUESTRO DINERO
LAS CHICAS SE QUEDAN CON EL QUE MAS OFREZCA POR ELLAS
Nieguelo si puede… tal vez pueda comprobarlo con sus abuelos, padres, o incluso usted mismo…
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i guess thats your opinion .But why are you against Christianity ?
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Yes, my informed opinion. I’m not against Christianity or any other religion. Not sure where you got that out of the post. Thank you for the reply.
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This article has a false premise. The point of the post can be summed up with the one sentence:
“Like other tenets of red pill ideology, female hypergamy is just another excuse for its low-quality denizens to complain and excuse their inadequacies and insecurities.”
Female Hypergamy is something that many guys complain about, for good reason, but the idea that they use it as an excuse for anything is the exact opposite of the truth making the statement by the author and the whole point of the article an outright lie.
The whole meaning of the red pill is to become aware like when Neo escaped the Matrix. It’s about dispelling your preconceived notions and waking up to the truth. The truth is that most guys are not at all desirable to most women. Many guys who don’t understand female nature make excuses and blame women when they get savagely rejected over and over again because they don’t understand what the problem is. They need to realize that despite what their mother has always told them, they are being rejected because they are not desirable. They need to look in the mirror and ask themselves what they need to change about themselves to make themselves desirable to women.
That means taking accountability to themselves. In this case they need to understand that due to unreasonably high standards by most women, being successful with women usually means having discipline, working hard, making money, working out, getting in shape and bettering themselves on all levels. If a man never admits the problem, he’ll never find the solution. For most guys, a radical change and long term dedicated effort might be required.
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Thank you for your thoughtful and articulate comment . Since I am the author of the blog post, I owe it to you to make a thoughtful retort to your comment.
Three points…
Firstly, perhaps my characterization of the red pill (aka: manosphere) is a bit harsh. However, in my experience, following any ideology vs thinking your own thoughts is a recipe for personal disaster or failure. I tend to rail against ideological thinking, though I recognize the importance of ideology. The key is to not allow yourself to become such an adherent to an ideology that it supplants your individuality and your thinking. Aristotle opined, it is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
Secondly, to segue my first thought, being open-minded, the premise behind “entertaining a thought without accepting it,” allows you to assimilate the useful ideas within red pill philosophy or ideology without subscribing to it so dogmatically that you lose your ability to be objective. Sure, individual self-improvement as a man is very important. A man with a purpose in life and a drive to achieve his goals is not a panacea for failure to succeed in finding the right woman, but it will help you determine what qualities you should look for in a woman who is right for you.
Lastly, there is more to a man than the outward appearance of success. To your point, being in the best shape possible, having a skill set that enables you to generate a good income, dressing well, being well-read, are all very important qualities to develop and go a long way towards achieving success. Not just success in attracting women, but success in life. Remember, it’s not about attracting women. It’s about attracting the right women. Only the individual man can judge what “the right woman” for him is. Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder, but beauty fades and short-term gratification with women is fine if that’s your goal. However, happiness comes from within. In my estimation, the red pill just offers men justification for their anger and frustration borne from pursuing, being rejected by, and choosing the wrong women.
Thank you again for your comment.
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