The Rational Ram

I have often posted the term “modern relationship” in my posts, but I realized that I never defined what this rather nebulous term means. I don’t think there is a formal definition or universal agreement on how “modern relationships” are defined, but my post attempts to articulate two concepts of what constitutes a modern relationship. […]

Preface: I am “going in” on Instagram because I think the social media platform continues to have a deleterious influence on men and women alike and it fuels the dysfunctional nature of modern relationships. This is a two part post, one for the ladies, one for the gentlemen, that attempts to pithily outline why people […]

In an effort to be fair and balanced, I need to point out why Steve Harvey’s relationship book became wildly popular to begin with. Steve Harvey didn’t sell millions of books because he was right — he sold millions because he hit a nerve. That nerve being the fact that dating is hard. Depending on […]

We treat bachelor and bachelorette parties like harmless fun — a “last hurrah” before marriage. But underneath the neon drinks, wild weekends, and Instagram stories is a toxic message… Marriage is the end of fun, freedom, and individuality. And that’s exactly why these parties are more harmful than most people think. 1. They Reinforce the […]

He’s not stuck — he’s loyal. Don’t mistake his stability for a lack of options. 1. Boring Isn’t Weak You call him boring because he’s not blowing up your life with chaos. That’s not weakness — that’s emotional discipline. He knows drama is expensive. You should realize drama is expensive, too. 2. Loyalty ≠ Lack […]

I was once a single dad. After my first wife and I divorced, I received primary physical custody of my now-adult daughter. My present wife was a single mom of two now-adult daughters when we met, as she had custody of them as a result of divorce. The so-called manosphere loves vilifying single mothers, and […]

This is a two part post that examines a topic I have often debated and discussed with others, primarily women. Steve Harvey is a great entertainer, but like most celebrities, he should refrain from dispensing relationship advice. Let’s be brutally honest… If your dating strategy comes from a comedian in an expensive suit, don’t be […]

Validation feels good. Validation also kills relationships. Most people won’t admit it, but they like knowing they’re still desirable — even after they’ve chosen a partner. A smile from a stranger, a flirty DM, a lingering look across the room — it’s a shot of dopamine that makes you feel alive. But here’s the truth: […]

If sex was a club, women are at the door with the velvet rope — but men run the registry at City Hall. The Unspoken Social Contract For centuries, society ran on a simple (if imperfect) exchange: women decided who got intimacy, and men decided who got commitment. It was a balance that worked because […]

I have posted several posts on the dual mating strategy, but I feel the need to clarify a couple of things. Firstly, the strategy isn’t just something women subscribe to. Men engage in their own version of the strategy. Secondly, there is a dark side, usually the endgame, to the strategy that always manifests itself. […]