The Rational Ram

I preface this post by saying upfront that I lived what I am about to type. When I divorced my first wife, I fought for custody of my then 6-year old daughter. I was told by multiple people that my ex-wife would win custody because “the courts always favor the mother.” I know this to […]

Everyone knows the names. Everyone knows the stereotypes. But what happens when you line them up side by side? Here’s the brutally honest His & Hers guide to the dating archetypes running modern relationships into the ground. His Side: The Male Archetypes Pookie -Broke but thinks he’s “the man” Hustles women for money, rides, and […]

Everyone chases the fantasy version. Almost no one values the real thing. Part 1 (His): The Top 10% of Men — The Perception vs The Reality Everyone talks about the “top 10% of men,” but most people are chasing a fantasy. Let’s break down what people think it means versus what it actually is. The […]

This is a two part post, one for the men, one for the women, imploring each side to recognize and stop falling into the behavior patterns that undermine their happiness. Part I: Men, Stop Being Pookie, RayRay, Chad, and Tyrone Too many modern men default to the lowest archetypes: reckless, broke, and drama-filled. Pookie thinks […]

Don’t pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a hard one. -Bruce Lee I learned very early on in my life that you can’t experience growth without first enduring pain. Pain Isn’t the Point Most people think betrayal, setbacks, and tragedy are about suffering. They brace for the heartbreak, the anger, […]

Every corner of the internet has its stereotypes. The manosphere has “Chad” and “Brad.” Black Twitter and urban spaces talk about “Tyrone,” “Pookie,” and “RayRay.” And then you’ve got “Tracey” and “Stacey”—the basic women chasing validation, lifestyle, and the next thrill. They’re memes, but the reason these names won’t die is because they represent archetypes […]

Everyone throws around the phrase “age-appropriate relationship”—but what does it actually mean? For some, it’s about legality. For others, it’s about morality. And for many, it’s about optics: what looks right, what feels right, and what avoids raised eyebrows. Let’s cut through the noise. 1. Legal ≠ Appropriate Just because something is legal doesn’t mean […]

I have often posted the term “modern relationship” in my posts, but I realized that I never defined what this rather nebulous term means. I don’t think there is a formal definition or universal agreement on how “modern relationships” are defined, but my post attempts to articulate two concepts of what constitutes a modern relationship. […]

Preface: I am “going in” on Instagram because I think the social media platform continues to have a deleterious influence on men and women alike and it fuels the dysfunctional nature of modern relationships. This is a two part post, one for the ladies, one for the gentlemen, that attempts to pithily outline why people […]

In an effort to be fair and balanced, I need to point out why Steve Harvey’s relationship book became wildly popular to begin with. Steve Harvey didn’t sell millions of books because he was right — he sold millions because he hit a nerve. That nerve being the fact that dating is hard. Depending on […]